Connecting with God
If there is one thread that binds mankind together, it is a thread of loneliness that is born from our alienation from God because of our sin. Our sinful nature makes it difficult to hear from God. Further complicating the issue is the culture of busyness that we have created for ourselves. We have bought the idea that the more productive we are, the more worthwhile we are. When we inevitably carry this over into the realm of our spiritual beings, then our faith is reduced to religion. Our relationship with God is replaced with ideas or, at best, replaced by ideals.
What can we do to avoid this trapdoor? Always first, ask God’s help in every undertaking, especially when it has to do with your own spiritual life. Be honest about your sinfulness, your obsessions and compulsions, those things and people with whom you are secretly peeved--another way of saying those for whom you harbor some resentment. Focus on the part of Jesus’ prayer that so many of us pray every Sunday: “Forgive us our sins as we forgive those who sin against us” (ecumenical version of the Lord’s Prayer. We are asking God to forgive us in the same manner in which we are forgiving others). Stay with it until you are able to hear God’s answer. I do not mean that God always solves everything immediately. Maybe you might have to consciously live with some issues for days or even weeks. In some cases it is good to seek spiritual direction from someone God sends your way. However, let God direct you toward what is necessary in all these matters. This places you in the position of a proper relationship with God. Second, look upon others from a position of relationship. Count them as valuable to God. Pray for their welfare. Especially do this concerning people you are "on the outs" with. This takes us away from our natural and sinful tendencies to use people as “self-objects.” Praying for others helps us to move away from living in a relationship with them in the mode of “but what have you done for me lately?” We often use others to fill the place of God in our lives. When we place others in the position of being our primary relationship, we soon drain them dry from our neediness. Only God’s Holy Spirit can fill these deep places.
I would love to hear your response, your experience. If you want to post it as a response here, then you also share it with others.
What can we do to avoid this trapdoor? Always first, ask God’s help in every undertaking, especially when it has to do with your own spiritual life. Be honest about your sinfulness, your obsessions and compulsions, those things and people with whom you are secretly peeved--another way of saying those for whom you harbor some resentment. Focus on the part of Jesus’ prayer that so many of us pray every Sunday: “Forgive us our sins as we forgive those who sin against us” (ecumenical version of the Lord’s Prayer. We are asking God to forgive us in the same manner in which we are forgiving others). Stay with it until you are able to hear God’s answer. I do not mean that God always solves everything immediately. Maybe you might have to consciously live with some issues for days or even weeks. In some cases it is good to seek spiritual direction from someone God sends your way. However, let God direct you toward what is necessary in all these matters. This places you in the position of a proper relationship with God. Second, look upon others from a position of relationship. Count them as valuable to God. Pray for their welfare. Especially do this concerning people you are "on the outs" with. This takes us away from our natural and sinful tendencies to use people as “self-objects.” Praying for others helps us to move away from living in a relationship with them in the mode of “but what have you done for me lately?” We often use others to fill the place of God in our lives. When we place others in the position of being our primary relationship, we soon drain them dry from our neediness. Only God’s Holy Spirit can fill these deep places.
I would love to hear your response, your experience. If you want to post it as a response here, then you also share it with others.
